I found the following poem through the Alzheimer's Association group on LinkedIn. It really touched my heart, so I thought I would share it.
Maybe
When I wander.......................................
don't tell me to come and sit down ;
wander with me,
it may be because I am hungry, thirsty, need the toilet,
or, maybe I just need to stretch my legs..........
When I call for my mother.........(even though I'm ninety!)
don't tell me she has died;
reassure me, cuddle me, ask me about her.
It may be that I am looking for the security that my mother
once gave.................
When I shout out.................
please don't ask me to be quiet......or walk by
I am trying to tell you something,
but have difficulty in telling you what
be patient…………Try to find out,
I may be in pain……….
When I become agitated or appear angry…………….
Please don’t reach for the drugs first,
I am trying to tell you something,
It may be too hot….. too bright……too noisy,
Or maybe it’s because I am missing my loved ones.
Try to find out……first……
When I don’t eat my dinner or drink my tea……
It may be because I’ve forgotten how to;
Show me the what to do….remind me,
It may be that I just need to hold my knife and fork
I may know what to do then………
When I push you away when you trying to help me……,
A wash, perhaps, or getting dressed.
Maybe it’s because I have forgotten what you have said;
Keep telling me what you are doing…….,
Over and over and over…………
Maybe others will think you’re the one that needs the help!
With all my thoughts and maybes,
Perhaps it will be you…..who reaches my thoughts……
Understands my fears and will make me feel safe…..
Maybe it will be you…..that I need to thank
If only I knew how……………..
Patience is such an important part of caregiving!
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